Apparently, when marriage was legalized for homosexuals in Massachusetts, there was a rush to the altar... which has since died down considerably. Since its inception in 2004, over 10,500 same sex couples have married there. Over six thousand of those took place in the first six months. The pro-homo-marriage crowd gave some reasons for the drop off in rates... 1. initially, the numbers reflected a pent up demand for marriage, 2. marriage isn't for everybody, and 3. there are only so many gay people in Massachusetts.
One thing in the article that really cracked me up was Jacob Venter and Billy Boney, a gay couple that's having difficulty with the "marriage learning curve." 44 and 36 years old, one would think some of the things they're fighting over would just be non-issues... like "whether to adopt children or have their own." (???) Basic biology should be able to decide that one for them, wouldn't you think? But Jacob Venter complains, "Nothing turns out the way you imagine. There are no role models for gay marriage." Huh. I thought according to the P.R., gay marriage was supposed to be the same as heterosexual marriage because all you need is LOVE.
Linda Bailey-Davies is 62 years old and she married her partner who is 67. Linda says she feels "totally different inside my skin" because of getting married. She now feels "legitimate in the world." I am just having such difficulty understanding why we are legitimizing sex between women and sex between men. I really don't get it.
And then the NYT says:
While many couples want conventional marriages, some are drawing on a creative definition of family forged while living "outside mainstream society," said Joyce Kauffman, a family lawyer and gay activist. "They've incorporated whatever's outside the box into their marriage."
Eric Erbelding and his husband, Michael Peck, both 44, see each other only every other weekend because Mr. Peck works in Pittsburgh. So, Mr. Erbelding said, "Our rule is you can play around because, you know, you have to be practical."
Mr. Erbelding, a decorative painter in Boston, said: "I think men view sex very differently than women. Men are pigs, they know that each other are pigs, so they can operate accordingly. It doesn't mean anything."
Still, Mr. Erbelding said, most married couples he knows are "for the most part monogamous, but for maybe a casual three-way."
Somebody - please tell me how you can be "for the most part" monogamous. You either are or you aren't. Since monogamous means that you have only ONE sex partner, you can't possibly have casual three-ways and still say you're monogamous. That's ridiculous... but I suppose since marriage is being redefined, we might as well redefine monogamy, too.
Mostly, from reading the article, I gathered that the NYT interviewed a pretty mixed up lot of folks. I'm sad for them. Being legally allowed to marry doesn't actually do anything to legitimize any action. It doesn't make it so that people (generally) are more accepting of a lifestyle. And it doesn't make them any happier than they were before.
So... why the big push for homosexual marriage across the country?